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How Self-Image Determines Your Child's Success in School, in Career, and in Life

Updated: Mar 1, 2022

One of the most asked question that both Tom and I hear is, "How can I make sure that my child will be successful?"

With over 30 years of classroom experience of teaching and guiding my students, I feel comfortable offering the following advice:


You may have heard of the best-selling book, Psycho Cybernetics, by Maxwell Maltz, M.D., F.I.C.S. Today’s field of psychology considers the book to be one of the most important ever written. It’s a refreshing look at self-image and how you can change your life by re-programming the mechanism in your brain that controls your behavior – and thoughts.

Maltz’s theory is that there is a vivid distinction between the brain and the mind – the brain being the ‘machine’ that causes you to function and the mind being a life force that compels you to use your brain and body to achieve goals and rise to success.

“Cybernetic” is taken from the Greek word for ‘steersman’, and today the term is usually used it to refer to how machines and animals control and communicate. For example, a computer is a sophisticated machine that organizes itself to perform a function. Maltz maintains that you can’t reduce yourself to a machine because you have the ability to know yourselves and what makes you tick.

It’s a fact that students with low self-esteem rarely attend the best colleges or careers that will allow them to rise to the top rungs of success.

Unless you, as a parent, recognize when you’re being overly critical with your child and

Their thinking process, the low self-image will keep plaguing them throughout their life and keep them from the success you want for them.

Understanding how low self-image can be developed will help you know how to help your child recognize and deal with negative thoughts and actions. This will enable them to make good choices and accept their uniqueness.

Combating a lifetime of self-criticism isn’t easy, and no parent wants this for their child,

Fortunately, with books such as Psycho Cybernetics and other related books, you can help your child overcome low self-esteem and poor self-image by the method of alternative thoughts.

Your child’s negative thoughts about himself and his abilities are habits that are self-defeating and need to be separated from who he really is. Your child, with your help, can learn to replace them with a better and more uplifting image of herself. Remember, our children are constantly being bombarded with unrealistic images of men and women on social media.

There are many methods that can help you with your quest to improve your child’s self-image. One method doesn’t fit all, so take please your time to look over the various ways that you can help your child begin to enjoy a more vital self-image and become more successful in school, in college, in his/her career, and in life.

It won’t happen overnight. But like any habit, you can help your child learn to deal with self-defeating thoughts and substitute energizing and nourishing thoughts which will improve his/her self-image.

After all, we, as parents want only the best for our children which is to be happy and to be fulfilled.

If you are confused about the next step in the process... choosing a career, choosing a major, and choosing a college, Tom and I can help.

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